“I’m terrible at doing what people tell me I should do, but I still get things done. I’m not sure why this is, but here is my best guess:
I manage my desires more than my time.”
I kind of like this guy’s perspective.
I have a hard time managing time. It could be a learning disorder, it could be a bad habit. I’m not sure and maybe it doesn’t really matter. The past year and a half have been a demonstration in my concentration problems.
I knew people in South Korea who returned after their year abroad to jobs the following weekend after getting back. Their focus and network contributed to starting a job right after the first one was finished. I have applied to numerous jobs in a couple fields I have really wanted to work in without any luck yet. I’ve also applied to jobs in fields I have no interest in, and I have a hard time pretending to really want to be a phone operator or to work in the clerk’s office.
Is it knowing themselves that lets others get farther, sooner? Is it their work ethic? Their friendly demeanor and lack of social anxiety?
People want experience and skills. I’m now going to work on getting more computer skills, and asking around to others who have gotten jobs I would like to have eventually. I have a small network and I want to fix that.
Then there are times when I go to Duolingo.com and start studying Spanish. Because I’m more interested in that sometimes, and because I can see results soon after. Yo soy una mujer. (<—-Don’t ask me to say anything more complicated than that yet.) I may never get a job where I can use my budding Spanish skills, but does it matter? I like this website and it’s cool to think that I now have a little bit of knowledge. It’s productive procrastination.
I want to see the world. I want to contribute meaningfully to my closest relationships but not be a pushover. I want to remember and not forget as much. I want to be treated kindly. I want to make a living and not be underemployed. I want to be able to save money to retirement every month. I want to have a job where I can put some money aside, but can afford a vacation. Those things I could answer in an interview, but instead I forget how to answer “where I see myself going professionally.” I think part of my employment problem is that I don’t know where I see myself going professionally. I see where I want to go personally (sometimes) but I don’t know what kind of person I am professionally, other than one who needs to enter the professional world or risk never getting anywhere.
The gist of this article is that “getting ahead” can be more of:
saying no, telling the truth (to yourself as well as others), making time for others, and if it works better for you- not always finishing what you start in business. The writer recommends losing to-do lists, and keeping track of “did” lists.
Don’t do hard boring useless things.
So much of what work is involves keeping the workers busy. Workers who want more meaningful work have to ask for it, but what I think ends up happening tends to be that they are just given more work instead of quality work. I can give better work, even as I look for something better. If I can’t give my best at a job I don’t want for 30 years, it’s harder to believe I can give my best at a job I really want.
What some people fantasize about might be my greatest nightmare. This kind of stuff is subjective.
What are we talking about anyway? We are talking about your time on earth, so before you decide on how to manage your time, you need to know what you want your life to be about. You cannot have it all and therefore if you concentrate on one thing then something else will have to give.
We can’t have it all. When we try to have everything, something inevitably suffers. Even when we have most of what we want, it is at the expense of a former dream or desire. There are a few things I have to decide about because they affect me and others, and being on the fence doesn’t help my personal relationships or my job prospects. I haven’t found my focus yet. I used to think I knew who I wanted to be like. That hasn’t worked out, no matter who I currently want to be like.
Conan O’Brien says it well:
“It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique. It’s not easy, but if you accept your misfortune and handle it right, your perceived failure can become a catalyst for profound re-invention.” (from his 2011 speech at Dartmouth.
Ah, that was a cathartic little blog post. Perhaps I rambled a bit, too.